Every year on October 15th, millions of people wear purple as a way of taking a stand against bullying. Interestingly enough (or by design if you’re a cynic), One Million Moms posted an anti-gay family rant about the new, incredibly touching Campbell’s Soup advertisement this year.
Check out these two dads and their uber cute son.
Like many, I had a visceral reaction to their post. While reading their response to the ad, I was fuming. I literally felt all of the kids of LGBT parents being bullied by their words. I thought about posting a mean comment (or twenty) on their site. Then, I realized that, as a parent, I’m now responsible for modeling the right behavior and teaching my son how to react if and when he encounters a bully in his life. I’m also supremely exhausted by all of the extreme, hate filled arguments that seem to be all too common in our world today. Politics anyone? No, I want my son to understand that there is a different way to navigate life when you encounter someone that makes another person feel less than.
Begrudgingly, I jumped on the One Million Moms website to seek some understanding and to try to find some common ground. Again, I was hoping to show my son that even though we disagree with another person’s views, it’s important to educate yourself on their stance. I want him to see the good in others, even when that’s not what they’re showing the world.
As a quick aside. To the One Million Moms website design team, I have a couple of notes. You call people, companies and ads filth and trash. You brag about victories fueled by hate. You overtly ask people for money. And, you talk about bigotry with no irony at all. I’m sure these are all simple oversights, but they don’t seem to be aligned with what I know about Christian beliefs and values. So, I just wanted to share for your next round of updates to the site.
Back to the real reason for this note. To the entire group of One Million Moms, we would like to personally invite you to dinner. Before you accept our invite for an evening of fabulous food, insanely good wine and healthy debate, there are just a few things I would like to clear up before you arrive. I know you are nervous about having dinner with two dads and their son.
My “husband” (since you like to put the word married in quotes when you refer to gay couples), and I went through hell to adopt our son. We spent hours with a social worker proving that we were worthy. We were scammed out of money. We had numerous heart breaks, countless tears and several false alarms. It was an emotional roller coaster. But, we wanted a family. After a challenging 18 month process, our son found us. I think God helped him a little. Shhhh, don’t tell your “fans”.
With that being said, he and One Million other innocent children being raised by LGBT parents (I’m guesstimating on that number, but you get the point) are at the center of your big boycott of Campbell’s Soup. Your uninformed, mean-spirited and misguided responses could have a lasting, negative impact on them. I know you don’t want that. I do believe deep down that you actually care about children and don’t want to see them hurt. Something we surely have in common.
My son is cared for by more people that you can shake a stick at. His favorite thing to do is to give hugs and besos (he’s learning Spanish, how cute is that?). We’re focused on potty training, sharing with others, using our manners and big trucks right now. Our lives are consumed with thoughts about his education, teaching him to embrace and celebrate people that are different than him, and trying to help him realize his own potential for making a difference in this world. I’m going to assume that you are focusing on similar things with your own children.
We’re actually just a healthy, loving and kinda boring little family trying to raise our son to become a kind and considerate human being. See, nothing to be scared of here. Good. Now that that’s out of the way, we can both agree that there’s really no need to judge other families (even when you don’t understand them). That frees up a lot of time for other conversation at dinner.
Here are a few topics that I thought we could discuss, before our first course. Which, I’m sorry to say, might be soup. My “husband” usually plans the menu. And, if you’re worried about how we are going to plan a dinner with One Million of you, that’s very kind. But, don’t fret. My “husband” is an event planner, and he’s gay. It will be flawless. Now, back to the topics:
- Bullying. Suicide is the third leading cause of death among young people. There are 4,400 deaths per year, according to the CDC. Did you know that for every suicide that actually occurs, there are at least 100 suicide attempts by kids? I think we can both agree that’s unacceptable.
- Poverty and Hunger. According to Feeding America, 15.5 million or approximately 21 percent of children in the U.S. lived in poverty last year. And, 15.3 million children are living in homes that don’t have enough food or adequate access to nutrition. How do we change this?
- Abuse. www.childhelp.org says that every year more than 3 million reports of child abuse are made in the United States alone! This involves more than 6 million children. www.safehorizon.org provides the following statistics. “1 in 10 children suffer from child maltreatment. 1 in 16 children suffer from sexual abuse. Nearly 1 in 10 children are witnesses to family violence.” This is insanity. Don’t you agree?
- Childhood Disease. The American Childhood Cancer Organizations says that there are an estimated 15,780 children between 0 and 19 years of age who are diagnosed with cancer - each year! They say that approximately 1 in 285 children in the U.S. will be diagnosed with cancer before their 20th birthday. How heartbreaking for those families!
These are just a few of the topics that I assume we can find common ground on. You say on your website, “think of the influence we can have and all we can accomplish by banding together!” I couldn’t agree with you more. Can you imagine what One Million Moms and One Million Dads (gay or straight) could do if we put our collective brains together and tackled the real issues affecting our children. Let’s stop using hate and protect their future through love. How does that sound? No more time spent arguing about the silly stuff, ok? Imagine the impact. Watch out world!
I can’t wait to break bread and talk about the real issues.